Kick FEAR in the ass

Fear is a powerful feeling. It does not EMpower us, it OVERpowers us. Fear is also an excuse to not move on, to miss an opportunity, to stand back and behind, and to not explore.

Fear is so much easier keep, than to conquer. Yet, when we are pushed past a fear, we realize how “little” it really is, and how much power we gave it.

I have been questioning my fears often lately, or rather, I have been confronted with several of them in a short span of time. Today, I finally went back to the dentist. I have been taking my kids on a regular basis, but have skirted out as long as possible. A few weeks ago, I decided it was time for a cleaning, as my teeth were screaming for some LOVE. My dentist, who I can hardly understand due to a thick accent, is fabulous. The only reason I went is because I saw how gentle & kind he is with my kids. So, today, I conquered 4 fillings and a deep cleaning, on one quadrant. It was the worst, he said, the rest is easy peasy. I told him he is lucky I did not know what he was going to do, since I would have found yet another excuse not to go :). Honestly, I survived, and am sitting here with no discomfort at all.

I watch my kids, who are virtually fearless.

What happens as we grow up to make us so skittish?

Fear equals stress.

My theory is that we rationalize too much. We begin to overthink everything, and instead of looking forward to the best outcome, we envision all the things that “could” happen.

I think back to the all the adventures I missed because I rationalized: It is too expensive, it is too far, what if I fail, what if, what if, what if??

After today, I have vowed to kick fear in the ass.

I vow to grab opportunity by the horns and GO! I vow to jump in the water and paddle until I find the right position to float, I vow walk up and introduce myself to people I see on the street that draw me in, I vow to overcome my phobias ( I don’t have many, but snakes is one!) by honoring them however possible.

To be continued................

The Master of Attraction

The law of attraction is simple.

Just ask for what you want.

Right?

According to my 11 yr old son, it is so.

He is the Master of Attraction. We are beginning to see his talent, and are giving him "assignments". We know what we want, and we have a catalyst :).

So how does he do it, and why can't I just manifest my own stuff?

He is primal. He knows what he needs, and does not consider how he is getting it. Just two days ago, he comes and says "Mama, I have been looking on Ebay, because I need a set of Lego people, just people." Me: "Well, you need to figure out how you can do that, those sets are a bit expensive, and you have to bid." Son: "I will figure it out."

After that, he just kept looking on Ebay on Craigslist. There was not question in his mind that he was getting those Lego people, even if I threw in the "too expensive" wrench.

Today, we went for a peruse in the thrift store. We go our separate ways to snoop. He came running towards me with a cart, in which there were TWO large plastic bags of Legos. "Look Mama, they are only $6 each!" We began looking at the pieces through the plastic, recognizing lots of pieces from limited edition sets.

Score!!

He negotiated how he was going to pay me for one of the bags, and they came home with us.

Upon dumping the bags to clean them, he discovered LOTS of people. At least 40. And a whole lot of cool pieces. He has been immersed in his Legos for 5 hours straight, with some quick snack breaks.

This is not he first time he has attracted what he wants. His secret is that he does not think past "I want xxx." There are no thoughts about how he his going to get it, what it costs, should he have it, etc

That is what many of us loose as adults. We over think. You have to get primal. Stop thinking about all the things that need to happen BEFORE you can get what you want. That tells the Universe that you are not ready.

I want a ranch. Now.

There.

I should be milking a cow by next month :).

Tell me what YOU want!

With love,
Heike

The care & feeding of a Teenager Spirit

        

 My sweet teenager :).

 How often does the media implore us with horror visions of being a parent of a teenager? Their moods, stupid antics, laziness, boredom, …..just general blah?? They suggest that we, as parents, just accept this fact as normal, and wait until they are adults. 

Thankfully, I have been blessed with an inquisitive, verbal, fabulous, moody, open-minded (yet opinionated),self reliant (most of the time),  intelligent teenage girl. Oh, she is not perfect, and the hormones and teenager cooties come through regularly, but I feel that is a part of growing up, and needs to be dealt with just as any other growing pain.

I have found that when I recognized to greet & nurture my teenager’s spirit, it has made a huge difference.

There are times when my “baby” returns from events, trips, or just spending a few hours in certain situations like this: Mean, irritated, snarky, fatigued, sick with headaches, throat aches, stomach pains. She is tired, and also emotionally depleted. Her little spirit is withered.

I could let her isolate herself with her iPod & headphones, yell at her for being snarky, tell her to sleep more and text less, etc.

Instead, I have found the correlation. “HOME”, our house that is, is a rejuvenating sanctuary for her spirit. As chaotic as it is, it is safe. I have learned that the magic of food helps banish that “mean teen”. I don’t mean fries, burgers, & ice cream or other sweets. No, I see my teen craving nourishing food such as onion soup with turmeric, nettle tea, fermented food such as sauerkraut & beet kvaas does the trick. Within a short time, she regains her powers and is herself again.

Society will look at small children that throw a tantrum, and often say “They had too much sugar.” Or “No more food coloring for you!”

What if parents treated their teen throwing a “teen tantrum” the same way they would treat a small child? I know the foods listed above are not your average popular teen fare ( or that of kids, for that matter), and many of them will wrinkle their nose at it. My tip? Tell them to try it, and if it does not make them feel better, you will leave them alone with it NEXT TIME :).

Good luck!

Monday Morning Musings - Shake that Thang!

I read once that NO ONE can be unhappy, crabby, or otherwise dismal when they crank up the music and dance like no one is watching.

It's true. I tested it.

Even housework is not so bad when I put on my iPod and crank it up.

Here are a few of my favorites to bust loose with, and if you have some time to spare, check them out on YouTube, the videos are fun too.

The Ting Tings – That’s not my name

Nicki Menaj – Starships

Duffy – Mercy

Kesha – Tik ToK

Now go do it, Beautiful! Crank up the music and DANCE!!

Happy Week!

Heike

Monday Morning Musings * STUFF

Mercury is in Retrograde once again, and I really do not have anything else that could break on me, so I am taking it with ease. The interesting thing about everything breaking down on you, ei: last working computer, refridgerater, timing belt on car, flashlights (3….really. It was not the batteries), etc, is that by the time the 5^th thing breaks, you just chuckle.

For me, this has been an interesting, and humbling, experience on not only “stuff” I have that I rely on to be happy. It has also given me the time, and clarity, to reflect  on my life. You see, I was not distracted by computers, having to go places, etc. I had time to think.

This time of reflection has shown me that there is a lot in my life that distracts me (I am a like a magpie, if it glitters, I am there) from what I really need to be doing. I have let go of some things easily, and some with grieving, but I have let them go. The “free space” is invigorating, and challenging at the same time.

It has taught me to ask this question before I do anything, buy anything (to replace the old…remember, unless you have cash, you will be reminded of your purchase every time you have to pay a bill), commit to anything, or while I am deciding to keep/continue something. I am sharing it with you.

“Does this make me happy?”

There, simple enough.

Happy Monday

Let's take it outside and duke it out

I love my kids more than everything.

I homeschool them both.

We are together 24/7.

Have I mentioned I love them?

There are days when I would gladly put them in school, any school, just to give them the opportunity to live on someone elses schedule, and to get them out of each others' hair. Yes, and to get them out of my bubble.

Have I mentioned our house is only about 850sq/ft?

We have an interesting dynamic. My kids are 5 years apart, girl & boy, and are CONSTANTLY at each other. But take them apart, and they immediately miss each other. They fight like cats & dogs, and the next moment they are huddled together under the blanket watching some horrendous show together, cackling like wild dogs.

I am mama, warden (yes, warden), fairy, teacher, tutor, coach, witch, cook, chauffeur, secretary, technician, nurse, and cuddler, all before noon.

There are days, like today. Discontentment, yelling, roaring.  I feel like taking my two sweet children, and the dog.  opening the door, pushing them out, and locking it behind them. They make me CRAZY!!

That's when I know it is time to pack them all in the car, and drive somewhere by the river.

Nature is like magic. My teen has miraculously removed the permanently attached iPod from her hand. My son is no longer bouncing around like a tennis ball, cool as a button, enchanted by nature...rocks, flowers, holes, bugs, water......my dog is like a happy puppy (as long as none of stray too far :)...the herding instinct never goes away), splashing around in the river, running in and out until he hides his stick because he happily DONE. My son kicks off his shoes and and runs in the water, happy as can be, even though the water is still freezing cold.

Me? As soon as I step out of my car onto the river rock, I am ZEN. My gaze goes down and I automatically start searching for that perfect rock. My house and property are filled with river rock, I love them so :). I breathe deeply, and am glad I am no longer stuck in my little house with 3 other swirling spirits that need to get out and TWIRL. The rushing water mesmerizes me, and though I am not supposed to step in the water now due to a wound, my dog tricked me in. My first thought was "FEAR! Open wound!". Then spirit kicked in and let me know it was ok, it was time to go back to the river.

We played, took pictures, sorted rocks, splashed, walked......LAUGHED.

Yes, we laughed.

Nature did it again. Magic spells :).

calm.....

These rocks say it all.

Funny ducks...they kept following me.

Happy Dog

Harlem Shake :)

Kisses for MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

The Epithany in my Cabbage

 The month of January is over. The first month of 2013. The month where you are supposed to get off your ass and start over, a clean slate. The month where you will file all your receipts so the tax filing in 2014 will not be as hellacious as in 2013, 2012, 2011…….

In the past, for me, it has been THE month of pressure. Usually, by end of January I am always just as chaotic as I was at the end of December. As I am this year.

HELLO 2013!

I do have an excuse. Remember, I burned my foot on a heating pad? (If you don’t, I did.) My “little” burn turns out to be a second degree burn that I am still dealing with, and I have worn the same pair of shoes since December 31^st. It is in such a weird, strategic spot that it has seriously hindered my life style.

I have come to the conclusion that this freak accident was a sign. A few weeks ago, someone (one of many) asked me about my resolutions. I said “I have decided to throw any resolutions in the wind and wing it. January is screwed anyways”. And with that, I was free.

Free to take my goals for 2013, and start slowly. Free to sit in the café with my tribe TODAY and talk over my marketing strategies & business goals for the year, feeling that they are more heart centered, than pressured. Free to tell people “I am working on it.”, and to be good with that.

Sometimes, it is good to let things lie and “ferment”, ending up with a finished product that is much more wholesome than the fresh item.

When I go home,  I went into my pantry. There were the 6 heads of cabbage that I bought weeks ago with the ambition of making sauerkraut. They have been moved  several  times, rolled behind the laundry, screamed for attention. Yet, I ignored them. But today, the day I was actually going to cut them up for the chickens and the compost, they surprised me with this:

All cabbages have little sprouts of what looks like cabbage babies! I have never seen this before. I see this as a sign of the Universe.

“Heike, it is wonderful that you have let these lie, they are now creating new life, doubling & tripling themselves!”

I am sticking to it. Putting them in the garden to see what happens. The same goes for my goals for 2013. I started today to putting what is in my heart & brain on paper so it can expand into the world.

Better  to do IT late than not at all. The Universe says so!

P.S.  I have said it before, and will say it again. If you need a fabulous  visual, a guide to put your thoughts on paper, a brain extractor that takes those wild & crazy dreams and puts them in words, check out the 2013 Create Your Incredible Year Calendar & Workbook.  Yes, it is ok start in February J.

Much love,

Heike